tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post884925657693807769..comments2008-04-01T09:15:27.389-04:00Brian Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10339108255072541852noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-68072447441003502552008-04-01T09:15:00.000-04:002008-04-01T09:15:00.000-04:00Looking at #5 from that lens I can see how it sounds ambigious. That was intended to keep ourselves from spending too much time with someone of the opposite sex. Though, as you mentioned, developing solid friendships with the same sex is vital as well.Brian Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10339108255072541852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-8185274942465600422008-04-01T08:31:00.000-04:002008-04-01T08:31:00.000-04:00just a question if I may-- regarding #5. Is this question to prevent an inappropriate relationship from developing with the opposite sex(seeking a 'no' answer) or it is to make sure that you ARE making efforts to develop outside friendships beyond your immediate family (in which case a 'yes' answer would be preferable)? the question itself does not specify. thanks for the clarification.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-76700496031307548712008-03-28T18:01:00.000-04:002008-03-28T18:01:00.000-04:00Brian,<BR/><BR/>Great post - sobering reminder. For years (in the name of frugality!) my wife and I have tried to operate with only one vehicle in our household. We both work full-time and it gets to be a real juggling act. We're both often offered rides places by co-workers or church folk of the opposite sex (even those who know our rule). It's tempting to let this one slide for the sake of convenience. But boundaries aren't about convenience - they're about protection.J.Tunenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-67125577126875650892008-03-28T14:15:00.000-04:002008-03-28T14:15:00.000-04:00Hey Todd,<BR/><BR/>Yeah, that was my post. I had to re-arrange some things at the last minute. I'll post that again sometime. Hope all is well.<BR/><BR/>BrianBrian Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10339108255072541852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-90024659802799019822008-03-27T20:33:00.000-04:002008-03-27T20:33:00.000-04:00Brian ---didn't you write something on cleaning out old sermons and finding an unsettling balance / diet in teaching?<BR/><BR/>Was that you!?<BR/><BR/>I thought it was and wanted to respond to it because I have felt a great need over past 12 months to be more "meaty" in my teaching and not as much felt needs but real doctrinal needs etc.<BR/><BR/>That is why we are starting a 9 month series this week called "bookends" where we are going to study Genesis and Revelation between Easter and Christmas!<BR/><BR/>Anyway --- i wanted to write on the cleaning stuff out post ---but i agree with this GONE WILD post as well!<BR/><BR/>peace,Todd ClarkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-90890694237377654012008-03-27T11:05:00.000-04:002008-03-27T11:05:00.000-04:00Excellent stuff. Consider it stolen. (That's not on the list of the accountability questions!)Ronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07304913697578294098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-19643215886795527862008-03-27T11:02:00.000-04:002008-03-27T11:02:00.000-04:00Good wise post.One we all need reminded about.Andrew Kennyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02714318748847734699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-82873965913800090292008-03-27T10:09:00.000-04:002008-03-27T10:09:00.000-04:00Brian,<BR/><BR/>A great and much needed message. I feel very strongly about accountability. <BR/><BR/>I had a situation not to long ago that reinforced my convictions. I had one volunteer leader and his whole family that seemed to almost mock my rules. They made the same claims. They felt that the rules were unrealistic and unwarranted.<BR/><BR/>A short while later this particular individual was arrested for soliciting a prostitute. It also ended up on the nightly news. It broke my heart but made it very clear why we not only have rules and must enforce them adamantly.<BR/><BR/>It's not about controlling but protecting. Thanks for a great post.James Lawswww.jameslaws.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-34793271928744568772008-03-27T09:17:00.000-04:002008-03-27T09:17:00.000-04:00Hey Bake,<BR/><BR/>We pulled them out every time we met -- two times a month. Everyone answered the questions.<BR/><BR/>Our agenda was simple:<BR/>-accountability questions<BR/>-prayer<BR/>-church business<BR/><BR/>Sometimes we'd get hung up on different questions for different people and then would skip the church business altogether.<BR/><BR/>Someone once said, "Organizations don't have sins, but churches do."<BR/><BR/>I've just always felt that who were are as leaders is more important than what we do as leaders. <BR/><BR/>Also, I've always felt that you can reduce what you "do" in a governing board meeting as leaders and concentrate on who you are becoming...and that God would make up the slack and help you make wiser, quicker, and more focused decisions as a result.<BR/><BR/>95% of church decisions can be made by a highly educated high school freshman. The other 5% is why we as leaders are placed in those roles. And HOW we go about making those decisions has more to do with who we are character-wise and less to do with sharp mental focus and experience.<BR/><BR/>Always error on spending too much time building character than mulling over leadership decisions. Do that and the decisions will be made quickly, in a unified fashion, and well.<BR/><BR/>Later man.<BR/><BR/>Press on.<BR/><BR/>BrianBrian Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10339108255072541852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8021266862340067394.post-50270478660633443332008-03-27T09:07:00.000-04:002008-03-27T09:07:00.000-04:00Brian,<BR/><BR/>Great stuff. We have the same rules for staff about the opposite sex. I do have a question about the accountability questions. Who were these asked to, how often and when?<BR/><BR/>S. BakerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com